Archive for February 18th, 2009

Blog Share

Today, I am sharing my blog space with an anonymous blogger.  -R- at and you know what else has kindly organized the share and I’m out there anonymously one someone else’s blog too.   At the end of the post is a list of all the participating blogs.  Without further ado a warm welcome to my anonymous guest blogger!


Boy, this blog share could not have come at a better time for me. I have a problem, see, a rather personal one, and there’s no way I’d ever have the guts to post about it on my own blog. So thanks, -R-, for allowing me to seek the advice of the interwebs without venturing into serious TMI territory with my own blog readers. My problem is this: I have lost my sex drive. It’s been MIA for a long while now, and I don’t know what happened to it or how to get it back. A little background: I’m in a very serious, committed relationship, and although we are not married, we mutually agree it’s where we’re headed. We’ve been together for the better part of a decade, and we’ve been living together for most of that time. I love my boyfriend dearly. He’s my best friend, he makes me laugh, he’s supportive and compassionate, he’s an all-around great guy. He’s good in the sack, and he’s never pushed me to do anything I’ve been uncomfortable with. But every time things head toward Horizontal Mamboville, I suddenly get a little … just … disinterested. It’s not like I don’t want to be close to him at all. I still love the cuddling, the kissing, the comfort of sleeping with him next to me. But for reasons that are maddeningly unclear to me, sex just doesn’t enter my mind anymore. It’s like that part of me has left the building, but has left behind all the love and commitment and other stuff that goes along with any healthy relationship. (Oh, and by the way, I’m 29. Not menopausal. I should be ready to hump at a moment’s notice right now, biologically speaking.) Needless to say, this has caused some problems. He doesn’t understand, and I can’t help because I don’t understand. I suspect it may be my birth control pills, but a lack of health insurance has forced me to let my prescription run out. It’s only been a few weeks since my last pill, so if that was indeed killing my sex drive, perhaps this situation will resolve itself. But what if it doesn’t? This is where you come in, dear readers. Have any of you experienced this? If so, how did you deal with it? Can you recommend any medicines or herbal supplements or lifestyle changes or anything? I am desperate here, people. My relationship is suffering because of this, and it’s gone on too long. Help me!


Blog share blogs
And You Know What Else
Andrea Unplugged
Blue Soup
Bright Yellow World
Caity of the Keps
Daily Tannenbaum
Did I Say That Outloud?
Dispatches From The Failed Mommy Club
Face Down
For The Long Run
Full Of Snark
In Java, Literally
Just Below 63
A New Duck
NonSoccer Mom
The North Is My Snowcone
Not The Daddy
Operation Pink Herring
Pants, Pants, Pants
Red Red Whine
Sassy Buster
Sauntering Soul
Shushing Action
Snow-Covered Hills
Swimming With Sharks
Thinking Some More
Trueish Story
Way Way Up
Whiskey Marie


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